Tips To Last Longer In Bed

Friday, November 6th, 2009 at 8:07 am

Tired of losing it in a few minutes, if not a few seconds? If so read on for a great list of tips to last longer in bed, and start giving your partner a little more to look forward to.

A Few Tips to Last Longer in Bed

Lasting longer in bed is something a majority of guys would like to improve on. Believe it or not, the average guy lasts about 10 minutes, so if you think your alone, you’re not. Keep in mind, how long you last in bed is purely subjective, and there is no such thing as "normal". However, premature ejaculation is said to be defined by ejaculating before you and your partner want you to. Maybe 5 minutes is all you need, or maybe it’s 25 minutes.

The point is, this is a skill that you can develop, not an inborn ability. The following tips to last longer in bed include mental, physical, and diet recommendations that you can put to use right away.

Tip Number 1. Relax

“…don’t do it – when you want to come…”

Sounds simple, but one reason the ejaculatory reflex is triggered too early is that the muscles invovled are too tense. It stands to reason that if you’re tense, it’s because you’re worried about not lasting very long. Relaxing physically as well as mentally are important, so that you don’t create a negative, self-fulfilling prophecy. Try meditation for 10 minutes a day. It will give you greater calm, and greater control of your mind and body, which is a great foundational skill to have when trying to last longer in bed.

Tip Number 2 – Focus On Pleasing

…not just being pleased

Men have a tendency to obsess on all things sexual, including the thought of having a satisfying orgasm. The problem with that is, the more you think about the end result, the less time it takes you to get there, and therefore, quantity and quality of the process of making love are diminished. Want to last longer in bed? Then make it your goal to please your lover first, and focus only on their satisfaction.

Tip Number 3 – Tune In, Not Out

self-awarenss is the key, Grasshoppa

Think you need to "distract yourself" while having sex in order to last longer? Not so. In fact, the more aware you are of what is happening in your body, and your partners, the better control you can have over when you will ejaculate. Specifically, this means tuning into your arousal, and choosing to ease up on the action once you become too aroused.

Tip Number 4 – Pace Yourself

It’s not a race, so slow down.

This one may be obvious, but in case it isn’t, make sure you deliberately take things slow, especially in the first couple of minutes. Studies show that chances of PE are greater in the first 2 minutes of sex than afterwords.

Tip Number 5 – Do Kegels

Be a little more PC (…as in PuboCoccygeus that is.)

Kegel exercises work the PC muscles, which control both the flow of urine and the ejaculatory reflex. They are done by simply stopping the flow of urine intermittantly. Do this a few times a day, and you will notice greater strength and control during sex.

Tip Number 6 – Diet and Supplements

You are what you ejaculate after all.

There are certain foods, herbs, and supplements that are good for a man’s reproductive health, and that includes giving you more strength and control of your ejaculations. In no particular order, look into Saw Palmetto, Pumpkin Seeds, Zinc, B-Complex, and Pygeum.

Tip Number 7 – Practice Makes Perfect

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In addition to the previous items, just remember that masturbating can give you an opportunity to improve on your best time, so to speak. Give yourself a minimum time of 10 or 15 minutes, and then don’t let yourself ejaculate until that time is reached. Use the above tips to help you achieve this (relax, pace, slow down as orgasm approaches, etc.) Pretty soon, lasting longer in bed will become second nature.

The poor young woman to the right is just plain tortured in her quest to find a man that can last long enough provide her with a little sexual release. Just look at her, all hot and bothered, you can practically feel her pain and frustration. Use all the recommendations in this lens, and you have a chance at putting a smile back on her distraught, pouty little face…=)