For those of you guys out there in search of real world techniques on how to last longer in bed, this one’s for you. In no particular order, I give you 5 solid ways to last longer in bed (pardon the pun.)

Mindset

Remember, from now on, your mission while having sex is to please your partner, avoid embarrassment, and eventually, have an orgasm – in that order. Most guys seem to get that almost exactly backwards, even if not intentially.

So, if you put the priority on pleasing your lover, it will shift your concern, and your focus, from your own ejaculation reflex, to meeting their needs and desires. It helps a lot, and your partner will usually return the gesture, and do so happily.

Masturbation

Okay, this is almost cheating, but hey, whatever works. Especially for you young guys that have more than enough libido to go around. At some point before you get intimate with your lover, unload your weapon first. Just be careful when doing so, you wouldn’t want to pull a “…Something About Mary…” hair gel incident.

Strength Training for Sex

On a day to day basis, start conditioning yourself for greater strength and control of your PC muscles. These are the muscles that control urine flow, as well as ejaculation. So, essentially, start doing 3 sets of 10 in the bathroom, every time you pee. As in, 3 times a day, start and stop the flow of urine 10 times, or adjust the number to something that works for you. Like Nike says, just do it, each day, a few times. It will pay off, certainly more so than doing nothing.

Stay On the Bottom

Believe it or not, simply choosing a to be on your back with your partner on top helps to prevent you from ejaculating as quickly as the other way around. Call it gravity, it helps. Try it.

Permission to Be Shallow

In order to prevent over-stimulation of your penis, insert fully, then use shallow strokes instead of deep ones. Pretty simple, but hand in hand with gravity, the laws of physics apply in the bedroom too. The great thing about this is, you can still fully stimulate your partner, while keeping a lid on your own premature ejaculation response.

There you go -  five ways to last longer in bed that you can start using as soon as tonight. If you are sick and tired of premature ejaculation, and want to finally get rid of this embarrassing problem without using weird drugs, or funky smelling creams or sprays, then you’re in luck. A lot of guys think that premature ejaculation is some kind of huge, insurmountable issue that they just have to live with.

The fact is, it’s only as huge as we make it, because most of the problem is mental. In other words, premature ejaculation is exactly as difficult as we think it is – or is not. Sometimes, when we are trying to cure ourselves of premature ejaculation, we think about it way too much in the process, and that just makes it worse instead of better.

Not to blow smoke here. As they say, with anything in life worth having, you have to be willing to work for it. Curing your premature ejaculation absolutely can be done, realistically, no matter how hard you find that to believe. BUT, it will take a little bit of discipline, maybe some changes in habits (both mental and physical) along with some practice. The key is to take it seriously, and stick with it.

Even though I had re-published it at Squidoo, I was bound and determined to get that Hub live again. The main reason was that prior to the hub being un-published by hubpages,  I had successfully submitted it at Digg, and my digg submission itself is still live, and in fact is showing up prominantly in Google results for relevant searches.

Any blogger and online publisher knows that this is golden, because it provides needed exposure and traffic to our articles, hubs, squids, and blogs. After all, if we don’t get exposure, or traffic, how can we call ourselves self-respecting “online publishers/bloggers”

So, back to the story.  I made some revisions to the hub, re-submitted it for editorial approval,  and now it is indeed live again (woo-hoo!)   My secret you may ask? I simply went through the Hub, line for line, and identified any word and/or instance of “overly descriptive” language that that I could find, and replaced it with something neutral and/or more subtle. Instead of “ejaculate”, I used “finish”. I described the act of “masturbation” as “getting some practice – alone…” I think you get the point.

Anyway, I was happy to find an email in my inbox today informing me that the re-written version has been approved and the hub is now live. Check it out: Last Longer Bed Room Stamina

The interesting thing about this is that I first had created this as a hub on Hubpages. To my dismay, although the information in the article was very professionally written and devoid of any tasteless references or vulgarity, my hub was flagged by the Hubpages staff as having “adult content” and automatically unpublished.

I couldn’t believe it. I had found about 5 or more other hubpages on this subject, some of which frankly had lewd references right in the titles.  Things like “How to Hold Your Load”…! My hub was extremely tactful and even family friendly in the choice of words I used to describe everything I was talking about.

So, angered, I wrote an email to the managing editor of Hubpages, demanding an explanation, and pointing out examples of the other Hubs I had seen. I finally got a (very short) reply days later, that simply said “your hub has descriptive language of the sex act. The other hubs you mentioned as examples ALSO violate our terms, but had gone unnoticed and are now flagged for editing…” This was the exact OPPOSITE of the reaction I was expecting, because I thought anyone with any sense could see that my hub was a well written article about preventing premature ejaculation, a health problem affecting many men, and not just some article to be filed under “adult congtent.” And on top of it, I got some fellow hubbers in trouble without meaning too!

Anyway, I simply left the hub unpublished, and took a carbon copy of it over to their biggest competitor, Squidoo and created a lens there. Squidoo does allow “adult content” but they flag it with a double-opt in splash page to make sure people know what they are about to read. Anyway, you can read the whole “last longer bed…” lens now at Squidoo. Please come back to comment on it if you like it. I especially think my choice of images is really on target.