Where is a man to begin on the road to lasting longer in bed? Hopefully, it’s the same road where these lovely (yet mature-for-their-age) “school girls” happen to be lost and in need of male companionship to find their way back home after school.
Your not alone.
Lasting longer in bed is something a lot of men seek help with at some point in their adult lives. I am not talking about just lasting longer in bed as in, needing more energy to perform in bed for longer periods of time. I am talking about lasting longer, as in, overcoming premature ejaculation. In fact, some research indicates as many as 75% of all men have this problem.
The good news is, this "problem" really is not a problem, it’s more like a hardwired reflex that most of us are born with, and that with a little practice, can be modified and optimized.
I say hardwired because, in terms of evolutionary development, the urge to procreate (sex) derives from the genetically programmed drive to further the species.
This is highly related to the instinct of survival in general – because survival of the species takes the form of each individual having an inborn motivation to survive.
And, along these lines, if our ancestors out in the wild were masters of love-making, enjoying long, lavish sessions of enjoyable, mutually satisfying sexual intercourse, they would be increasingly vulnerable to predators. This is what I meant by saying we are pre-programmed, in a sense, not to last longer during sex, relatively speaking.
Back to the good news part. Essentially, just like other reflexes can be improved or modified with conditioning, so can the ejaculatory reflex. So, think of learning to last longer in bed as simply a skill that can be trained and improved upon over time, because that’s exactly what it is. This skill has a mental as well as a physical component, so it falls into the category of mind/body awareness.
Last Longer in Bed – The Body’s Role
Okay, let’s take a look at steps that can be taken to last longer in bed, from the perspective of the physical body, starting with diet. There are a number of foods, vitamins, and minerals that are highly beneficial to the male reproductive system. Not only do these improve semen and sperm count and quality, but they also help strengthen the reproductive and urinary tract in general, providing increased control over the ejaculatory reflex. Here are a few examples:
Top Supplements for Lasting Longer in Bed
In no particular order
Here are the most recommended foods, herbs, and supplements to boost your stamina and improve your overall reproductive health.
- B-Complex
- Lecithin
- Zinc
- Ginseng
- Saw Palmetto
- Pumpkin Seeds
- Tomatoes
- Raw Garlic
Hydrate or Die
…or last longer in bed, choice is yours.
Getting plenty of water is also very important to men’s reproductive health. In general, stamina in bed improves with overall physical fitness, so if you’re not already, get yourself on a regular fitness routine if you really want to condition yourself to last longer in bed.
Specifically, make sure you exercise the muscles that control ejaculation, i.e. the PC muscles. The best exercise for this (Kegals) is simply done each time you urinate throughout the day. Very simply, while urinating, randomly stop and start the flow of urine several times during each visit to the bathroom for urination.
Last Longer in Bed – The Mind’s Role
In the category of the mind, start out by cultivating a healthy attitude towards sex. That means remembering that sex is not just a source of pleasure for yourself, but for your partner as well.
By taking this one step further and making your partners satisfaction your first priority (and not your own) you accomplish two things at once.
Firstly, you increase the chances that your partner will reciprocate this attitude, thereby strengthening your relationship. Secondly, by shifting your focus to your partner’s needs, you automatically will extend the time it takes to reach climax, because you are not actively focusing on your own ejaculation.
This leads to another important mental step required to last longer in bed. That is, choosing not to focus on achieving orgasm – and just as importantly, don’t focus on not having an orgasm either. In either case, doing so will likely cause you to orgasm much more quickly.
Becoming aware of your level of arousal is another very important key to last longer in bed. You need to gauge yourself on a scale from 1 to 10, where 1 is barely any arousal, and 10 is the point of no return. The key then is, not letting yourself move beyond about a 7 on the scale.
If you do get to 7 or further, and do not yet wish to finish, this is your opportunity for intervention. That means, stop what your doing. Take a pause from the action so to speak, and either just remain there for a few seconds, or else apply pressure to the tip of the penis. Once you are back down to 5 or below on the scale, you can slowly begin to resume.
As you begin to incorporate some or all of the above suggestions for diet and exercise, along with the mental aspects of learning to last longer in bed, you will begin to notice improvements. You need to be regular and consistant for a solid period of time, because where health issues are concerned, very seldom does anything change overnight.
But if you do put in the effort, and you are consistant, you will begin to have total control over your body, and you will last longer in bed.
